21 Aug Commonplace

Oswald Chambers observes: The phrase we hear so often, Decide for Christ, is an emphasis on something Our Lord never trusted. He never asks us to decide for Him, but to yield to Him – a very different thing. At the basis of Jesus Christ’s Kingdom is the unaffected loveliness of the commonplace. The thing I am blessed in is my poverty. If I know I have no strength of will, no nobility of disposition, then Jesus says – Blessed are you, because it is through this poverty that I enter His Kingdom. I cannot enter His Kingdom as a good man or woman, I can only enter it as a complete pauper.

The unconscious effort to live before Christ in the most commonplace of events exercises the most influence on others. We moved Jalonna (our daughter) into her own apartment in Wisconsin this past weekend to start a new ministry position on a church staff. Yes, tears were a part of the mix as we left our “little girl” there alone. Saturday, a young mother with three little ones hanging on her, knocked on the door and introduced herself. Jalonna offered to baby sit.

It will be those kind of commonplace interactions and conversations that will open the door for Jalonna to share Christ with those around her. While there may be some events at church that will be helpful for her neighbors to be invited to, the key to reaching them will be the doors of relationship that open into their lives in the mundane interactions Jalonna has with them.

So it is for us all. Is it safe? (Father, mother, grandparents are all asking that about her physical safety) 🙂

Yes. And no. It is challenging and requires some thought and awareness, physically and relationally. But it is worth it because it is the fulfillment of the mission. It is why she (and we) are there.

So today, don’t think about the outcomes, just be like Jesus to those around you and that will be the greatest influence you can have for the Kingdom.

21 Aug Layperson’s Code of Conduct

In 1994, we held a leadership conference which brought several hundred UB ministers and laypersons to Huntington, Ind. One morning we divided everyone into groups based on church size–24 different groups. They talked about various issues for a while. Then we further divided those groups in half–ministers and spouses in one group, laypersons in the other. A total of 48 groups. They were instructed to develop a “Code of Conduct” for themselves, one code for ministers, one for laypersons. The 48 codes were then condensed and compiled.

I recently stumbled across those two codes, and was impressed with their wisdom. Here is the “Layperson’s Code of Conduct,” which ended up consisting of 12 points.

1. I will be open-minded to change, and will not insist that others follow my preferences.
2. I will focus on the positive in our church and convey that to others.
3. I will abide in Christ and bear the responsibility of that relationship.
4. I will demonstrate a servant attitude in carrying out my church responsibilities.
5. I will continuously evaluate my schedule, balancing family and church time in a way which puts family first.
6. I will not create conflict, and will lovingly confront those who do.
7. I will not criticize the pastor or others behind their backs, but will speak to them personally, always offering a solution with any complaints.
8. I will expand my witness in my corner of God’s world, and will do nothing to jeopardize my witness.
9. I will recognize that my talents, time, and resources belong to Christ.
10. I will be consistent and dependable.
11. I will pray for my church, its leaders, and its ministry.
12. I will continually remind myself that the ministry of the church is my ministry.

18 Aug Fathering

This was sent to me by Gene Wood the Turnaround Church author and speaker. Here I am, 66, and reading this with some regret. You who are younger would do well to heed this advice.

50 SUGGESTIONS FOR PASTORS
If You Want Children Who Love the Ministry

Infancy/Toddlers
1. Rock them to sleep when they are crying at night.
2. When you are home, spend lots of time on the floor.
3. Play fort under the table or under the bed.
4. Sacrifice so your wife can stay at home (for 12-15 years).
5. When you arrive home, always pick them up.
6. Play “horsey.” Let them ride on your back.
7. Tell them “no” and mean it.
8. Kiss them and hug them several times each day.
9. Be home for dinner.
10. Choose a godly mother for them and make her feel appreciated.

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14 Aug Why Do They Hate Us?

In light of the war in Lebanon and the threats created by the plot uncovered in the UK, I was asked the other day why the Islamic extremists hate Jews and Christians so much. I clarified immediately that the key word in the statement was “extremists” and that not all those who follow Islam are so disposed. My simple answer was that they are similar to the extremists in the Christian ranks who feel so passionate about abortion that they deem themselves justified in bombing abortion clinics and killing abortion doctors. Their hatred of those who are the opposition is fueled by their passion for their cause.

Something struck me as I was answering. These “extremists” fight to the death, are prepared to sacrifice even their children to attack the enemy, and generally devote every aspect of their lives to the cause. Their young people are incited to action by the repetitious mantra of what is right and wrong in their leaders’ views. Over and over again they are exposed to the message and they grow up reciting it. Their circumstances and environment support the claims of the leaders. And when their “wins” occur, they celebrate them raucously. The recent cease fire with Israel is seen as a “win” for Hezbollah, and they have already spread the celebration among their people.

I compared this to the level of passion we demonstrate about our mission through the church. We would denounce the extremists, but there is an admiration for their dedication to their cause. It sounds very much like the words, “Whoever would not take up his cross daily, and follow me, is not worthy of me.”

What would happen if we were so devoted to our cause that all of life was dedicated to it?

Think about it.

09 Aug Summer Reading and Fall Plan

Thought you might like to know some of the stuff I’ve been reading this summer. So here is a short list:

• Hit The Bullseye, by Paul Borden an Abingdon Press book. This is the story of how one region of a mainline denomination was transformed into an effective, missional region in a very short period of time.
• Winning on Purpose, by John Edmund Kaiser (also an Abingdon book). This is how the region described in the Bullseye book reorganized its congregations to succeed in their mission.

These two books have greatly impacted my thinking and vision for our denomination. Pat Jones and I were priviledged to attend a conference put on by the organization led by the author of the Bullseye book. It was one of the most inspirational, moving, and educational experiences I’ve had in a long time. Dr. Borden and his team have really hit the bullseye in the region they are serving.
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08 Aug What Are We Willing To Sacrifice For?

One year ago yesterday. That is when Pam and I (exhausted from the tears of the day before) drove our overloaded vehicles the 500 miles we had driven many times before. The difference is that before it was to visit family or attend a meeting. This time it was launching into a whole new life: new home; new and different ministry; empty nest. It has been an interesting year.

As I traveled today, I heard an interesting talk that I identified with totally. The speaker made the point that people don’t resist change as much as they do the transition process brought about by change. Change requires people to sacrifice something to achieve a desired goal. The end is desirable; but the process of getting to that end point is usually painful and disruptive. So how do we help people through the transition?

Quick Summary of the Steps:
1. Agree on a felt need or purpose. Share it as a vision to be achieved.
2. Outline the process to get there.
3. Prepare the transitioning person over a period of time through personal and corporate communication.
4. Create or provide a way to celebrate the necessary sacrifices.
5. Celebrate it and move into the new venture. Don’t allow the sacrificed thing to hold you back.

The Bishop and I will be illustrating this process in various settings as we move ahead. But the question I wanted to raise a year into the process is this: What are we willing to sacrifice for? What are we so captivated by, so motivated by, so enslaved to, in our local churches that we would be willing to sacrifice ANYTHING in order to achieve it?

One year ago, we answered that question. And we personally and painfully sacrificed certain things in order to pursue it.

Join me in pondering this question. You and your church may be asked to answer it personally in the next couple of years. What would your answer be?

03 Aug When Churches Merge

We have a superb track record when nearby UB churches merge. I wish the Elgin UB church had gone that route.
My mom grew up at Elgin, a small rural congregation outside of Van Wert, Ohio. I was related to a good share of the congregation, nearly all of them farmers. I say “was” because the church closed some years ago after doing what way too many small churches do–numbers decline, young families don’t seem interested, the long-time faithful grow increasingly frustrated that nothing seems to work, they go through years of just trying to hang on…and eventually they close. A family bought the Elgin building and turned it into a house.

It always made sense, to me, for Elgin to join forces with the nearby Monticello UB church. They were on a circuit for many years, no more than ten minutes away. The preacher would do his thing at Monticello while Elgin held Sunday school. Then he’d rush over to Elgin, arriving during the singing and just in time for the message. Some wonderful Christian people attended Elgin, and Monticello would have benefited from their wisdom and commitment.

But too many of the Elgin stalwarts–and I can say this, because so many were my relatives–were smitten with no small amount of pride, and I always sensed a touch of rivalry with the larger Monticello. They feared being swallowed up, feared losing power. So instead, Elgin died a slow death. Some wonderful people squandered years of ministry aboard a clearly sinking ship, until finally they just gave up and closed.

On the other hand, consider these churches:

• In 1985, three congregations merged to form the Lake View UB church in Camden, Mich., which today is a thriving congregation.
• In the 1990s, the Calvary and Otterbein UB churches of Rockford, Ohio, merged. Today this growing congregation, called New Horizons, has a superb building on new property.
• In 2000, the Immanuel UB church in Carlisle, Pa., merged with a non-UB church to form today’s Bethany Evangelical Church, a UB congregation.
• Last year, two churches in or near Willshire, Ohio, merged to form PraisePoint. The Willshire and Zion churches, once both small and struggling, now have an amazing new building on a busy corner in Willshire, and their future is bright.

Merging congregations like this just plain works. As far as I can tell, our track record is 100 percent. I’m sure it’s the answer for some of today’s struggling UB churches. I hate seeing fine Christian people wither in frustration when they could become part of something alive and growing–something that would bring them great joy. But there is a price to pay in “giving up” power, control, and heritage, even though it’s for a greater cause. Too many congregations aren’t sufficiently courageous and selfless to make it happen. But others are. Perhaps your church has what it takes. Yeah, I’ll bet you do. See that UB church 10 or 20 minutes away? Talk to them.

26 Jul Is Your Church an Island?

Tom Blaylock, Director of Church Multiplication

I had breakfast the other day with three UB pastors. One was pastoring a large church that is well established, and the other two were pastoring smaller congregations that were planted 5 – 8 years ago. All three pastors live within about a half-hour of each other.

Another thing you need to know about these churches–they all want to bless people beyond the four walls of the buildings they meet in. These leaders honestly want to move their congregations to a greater level of engagement in a lost and dying world, both around the corner and in the far corners of the world. And, to their credit, they are taking deliberate steps in that direction.

But on this particular morning, as we waded through the Cracker Barrel menu and feasted on oatmeal (this ordered by one of our senior members) and pancakes, the question was not, “What is your church doing these days to be and bring the Good News to people?” (which is a very good question), but rather, “What can our three congregations do together to ‘go and make disciples’ that we can’t do on our own?”

And that is a very different question.

We talk a lot about the “Body of Christ” at the local church level. Most of us would agree that helping the members of our congregations discover and engage their giftedness and calling is one of the most important things we do. I remember my days as a church planter and senior pastor. For me the concept of an interdependent body–with each member doing what the Holy Spirit had equipped them to do – was a matter of survival. There was no large, red “S” imprinted on my chest. After a short period of time I learned that I desperately needed others to step forward and live out their giftedness if our church was going to be healthy and fruitful.

Could these same principles be true on a regional level? Is it possible that our local churches were meant to function with other local churches in an interdependent way as we focus on the unfinished mission of making disciples?

Those of you who have spent a lot of time in the book of Acts might have some good insights on this. How many churches were there in Corinth? Were there many churches, or one church of Corinth with many members spread over the region? And if there is only one church of Detroit, or Fort Wayne, or Lancaster, then how do we function together to accomplish the mission that Christ initiated and promised to fulfill?

Can we plant more churches that make disciples of more people by taking joint ownership of our region and intentionally working together for something far greater than the “success” of our own, individual churches?
I would love to get some feedback on this!

19 Jul It Will Be Different for Me

I’ve come alongside some broken situations lately. My heart aches. I’ve seen it all through the years, and there are some patterns that continue to make no sense to me. A spouse is told that the “feeling” is gone and suddenly feelings have developed for a person that they’ve just met. This rush of “feelings” supersedes any vow of commitment that was ever made. Forget the vows, forget the kids, forget the oneness, forget the commitments. It all comes down to what I “feel.” Love has lost the buzz. It’s gone, and it won’t return. (At least that seems to be the logic.) And the number one priority is “my happiness.”

I’ve seen it in broken spiritual lives too. No work is put into developing the relationship. Other ventures and voices seem fresh and alluring. And suddenly Jesus is not worth following any longer. Pull back from fellowship. Pull back from Bible reading and prayer (the conversational aspect of relationship with Jesus). Pull back from serving anyone in any way. Listen to the voice that says, “Its all about you.”

And we walk away, chasing after our new friend.

The amazing thing to me is that while this scenario has failed to deliver on this ominous promise of happiness for people throughout the ages, everyone who walks through it feels it will be different for them. It is right for them, because it “feels” right.

Feelings are deceptive. They can change directions like the wind. That is why a wise man once said, “There is a way that seems right to a man, but its path leads to death” (Proverbs 14:12).

The prophet also observed, “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9).

The key for all is to revisit the commitments and vows taken at the beginning. We must begin to do the things that we were doing at the start (Revelation 2:5). Marriages, believing communities, relationships with Jesus, all take work. They take daily investments. Rather than walking away, get back to work!

The one reassuring promise is His: “I will never leave you nor forsake you” (Matthew 28:20).

12 Jul So Who Is Driving Your Church?

Years ago, Denny Miller, Bob Bruce and I traveled together to attend seminary at Evangelical School of Theology in Myerstown, Pa. Denny and Bob would pick me up along the way and from my home we would alternate driving so we shared the gas expense. It became apparent after a while that there was a clear difference in how quickly we arrived at the school depending on who was driving. I won’t elaborate the difference, but it was clear. Keep that thought in mind.

Now picture your church as a car. There are four people, or entities, in the car. One is vision. One is relationships. One is management. And the final one is programs. There are two main drivers in the car: vision and management. The progression of the journey will be dependent upon who is driving.

When vision is driving the church, relationships are up front riding shotgun and they work closely together. Management and programs are along for the ride but the focus is on how vision is setting the pace and relationships assist the vision. It is exciting, focused, fun, and enjoyable. The journey “feels” exciting and breeds anticipation. You always wonder what the Lord is going to bring around the corner.

But when ministry in a church gets sidetracked, and vision is not clearly communicated or existent, suddenly management moves into the driver’s seat and programs hop up front with it. The high priority becomes preserving what is as opposed to seeking and driving toward what God desires. Policies, procedures, processes and programs become the focal point now. Vision sinks into the background and relationships along with it. The atmosphere becomes strained, deliberate, slow, and discouraging. The machine may even seem to be running well, but the vehicle is slowly moving nowhere.

This can be further defined using two other words: fruitfulness and faithfulness. We can be faithful to having the same few people attend, giving money, and showing some level of care to each other and never be fruitful at all. We are simply “managing” those who are already there. Our focus is inward. And there is no fruit.

But Jesus in John 15 said that we would (and should) produce lasting fruit. Fruitfulness is reproduction. Reproduction is seeing new people come to know Christ and eventually assisting in multiplying new congregations. Faithfulness is important and necessary. But faithfulness without fruitfulness is death.

So who is driving your church? Is a clear, outward-focused vision driving, enhancing and encouraging growing relationships? Or is the major focus managing and programming your church, with vision and relationship taking a back seat?

Whoever is driving will determine where, how and when you will arrive at a destination. They will also determine what your destination is. There is a way that seems right to a man, but it leads to death.